We all only have a limited amount of time on this earth. Maybe you have 75 years, maybe you have 80.
I believe what time we have on earth is valuable. It should not be wasted.
One chronic waster of our time is “parasitic people”. These are the people who always want something from you. They take and take – without shame, without hesitation. They are too shallow and self centered to give in return.
It seems the more successful you are, the more these leeches appear – always ready to glom onto someone. You must be diligent. Keep your eyes open.
A parasite knows what your buttons are and push them well. Someone might pretend to be your friend or true love while you have something they want. But then when the “rubber hits the road” and you need something, they cannot be found.
Parasitic people need to be dealt with in a similar way you deal with a tick in a dog’s ear. They should be removed – the sooner the better.
I am not suggesting revenge, just simple removal through refusing to talk, associate or answer to a parasite.
Confronting a freshly plucked tick does nothing to the tick. It has no emotion, no discernable feelings. It is the same with confronting a time parasite. They don’t feel the same way you and I do. They don’t care, they want what they want for themselves. That’s all that matters. It’s very selfish really.
It may sound harsh, but the best recourse is to pack up your tent and go home. Walk away. Cut your losses and never let the parasite back into your life if at all possible.
When you remove a parasite, you might feel bad for awhile. This is ok. But work to get over thinking about them as soon as possible. Remember, they don’t think or feel the way you or I do. So they stopped thinking about YOU immediately. You were just a means to an end – a way for them to get what they wanted. So don’t give them the time of day. They certainly don’t deserve it.
Once you are free of a parasite, you will feel a great burden lifted. You are free.
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Plus, it doesn’t do people good to always give them a free ride. A Helping Hand differs from a Free Ride. People never fend for themselves and figure things out. I know this because my family is like this. If I gave them everything they asked for, I’d have nothing, and they wouldn’t know how to take care of themselves. It is not good for them and it is not good for me. People have to be able to stand on their own in their own integrity.